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THE SEX PHASES OF COURTSHIP / CONCEPTIVE PHASE: CREATING THE SYSTEM
I could see that we were going to get married. Everyone else seemed to know it before we did. I don’t remember asking, really. The next thing I knew, we were talking about the hall, the band, and why her uncle would never come to the wedding because one of her aunts would be there.
HUSBAND
This phase is characterized by the awareness that two must be more than just one and one. The couple learns that career, children, family issues, religion, and money are not individual issues combined in some form of compromise. A true bond offers the opportunity for a “gestalt,” a relationship that is more than the sum of the two people within it.
“I would have never thought of being a lawyer until I met her,” reported the husband. “I knew I wanted to do something in government, but we talked it out a lot. It just sort of came up as something from both of us.”
“He brought out the fighter in me,” reported the wife. “My family had really asked just too much of me. He helped me find a new independence, a new way to be with my parents.”
Both of these statements illustrate the “and” factor, the birth of a new system in which the new whole is more than the sum of the parts, and the parts, the “partners,” are more than they ever were before.
The advantage of working with these couples for years is that I have been able to do a modified longitudinal study, a study of couples in distress and a study of the same couple in “high-level wellness.” I learned that couples which I will describe next, tended to be the best marital problem solvers. The thousand couples who successfully completed the therapy program were able to relive, to discuss and re-experience their courtship patterns and apply their lessons to their present marital system.
The super marriage for super sex became a generating marriage in which both partners continued to become much more than they would have been alone. Partners were able to draw from each other and give to each other, broad strokes contributing to a completely original artwork. What has your marriage produced that you alone would never have produced? For many of you, the answer will go far beyond just the biological gift of children. You yourself may have been given a new birth through your relationship. Strong marital systems seem to offer a continuous “birthing” place for both spouses, a place where wife and husband simultaneously create and are recreated by the marriage.
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